Each year thousands of anxious parents descend upon Hollywood with their equally anxious and eager children, looking to land that one acting job for their child that will positively change their lives. The reality is that for the vast majority of young actors who pass through the endless turnstiles of Hollywood’s audition process, few will actually book that job. And even fewer still will secure a series of acting jobs that can serve as a catalyst for a life-altering career.
To break through in Hollywood I can assure it will take more than just your child’s obvious talent. Overlooked in all of the preparations for stardom is the crucial role parents play in helping their children land that all-important first role.
Easy & Agreeable
The best advice I can give the parents of young actors is that your behavior is as important, sometimes even more important, than your child’s. You may be the only thing standing in the way of your child booking the job.
When an Agent, Casting Director, or Producer casts your child, they know that they will be dealing with you and spending as much time on set with you as they will with your child. It is important that they like you and know you’re going to be easy and agreeable.
I have had agents and managers who have wanted to represent students of mine, but the parents were too difficult, so they passed on the child. I also know kids who have been released from set because the parents were overly demanding and uncompromisingly difficult.
Here are 5 keys that can help your child book the job
- Be a happy and nurturing parent.
- Be flexible, patient, kind and helpful.
- Get help when and where it is needed most. This applies directly to #1 and #2. If you find it increasingly difficult to follow the advice in #1 and #2, get help immediately, or send another adult in your place.
- Hire an acting coach to properly prepare you and your child for maximizing the precious opportunities of the meetings and auditions you will go on. The adage about never getting a second chance to make a good first impression still holds true in Hollywood.
- Don’t be your child’s coach and/or manager. Whatever examples you may be able to point to in Hollywood where a young actor was successfully coached and/or managed by their parents, there are tens-of-thousands of horror stories where promising careers were halted before they ever got off the ground because of a parent’s inability to navigate the often turbulent waters of Hollywood. But it’s not just the potential of a career that is ruined. The relationship between a child and parent is forever tainted. No acting job is worth a life-time of regret.
Remember you are a part of a community and you and your child’s experience can be a valuable learning tool and inspiration for other parents with young actors. So never shy away from sharing your experience in Hollywood.
If you’re parent of a young actor or know someone who is feel free to share this article with those you believe could benefit from it. Thank you.
And be sure to share your experience as a parent to a young actor. Who knows, your input just might make the difference in preparing and inspiring a parent and a child actor to book the job of a lifetime.
LIVE THE DREAM YOU WERE BORN TO
Acting should be simple. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy. If you’re an actor or you know someone who is, there is no better moment than now to make the intention to take full control of your acting career and live the dream you were born to.
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